Speaker to Animals wrote: Sun Sep 23, 2018 6:32 am
INFJ
Note the F for feeling instead of T for thinking.
I think the primary thrust of her argument is that addressing conflict in an objective sense fails because both sides think they are right, so simply telling the other side they are wrong, even when you believe them objectively wrong, cannot convince them.
She should have left out the "there is no such thing as right and wrong" part because it is ridiculous to INTP types like most of us, but not entirely unexpected if she scores extremely high in feeling rather than thinking.
Likewise, those of us with jacked thinking scores tend to go with the "fuck your feelings" tactic which, though satisfying, does not convince a feeler of anything other than your being an asshole (which arguably could be our goal).
INFJ feminists I suspect can be reasoned with if you approach it understanding this difference. Unlike the batshit ones, I bet I could sit with her for a while in a fruitful conversation.
Do not write this one off. You can have a good exchange of ideas with her, most likely.
I'm sure one could have good exchanges on emotional questions, or ethical questions, or some social issues. And if we're talking about political issues one can have a subjective opinion to, like "is abortion wrong?", or "should there be a minimum wage", or "MUHroads or AHR roads?" (

), then that, too is something that can't be said to be
objectively wrong or right. They may be inconsistent, or they may be based on incorrect facts, but the beliefs themselves are not neccesarily wrong or right - in absolute, objective terms. If that had been all she'd said, I'd have no problem with it.
That she scores high on Feeling in a Meyers-Briggs test explains part of why she thinks that way sure, but I have debated several people like her - and my replies to them have always been to paraphrase, "your feelings about the facts just don't matter to the facts". Do I understand that people don't like hearing that? Yup. Do I enjoy being told that I'm wrong, myself? Nope. But she is implying that it's super-awesome "rude" to tell someone they're wrong - because
everything is just interpretation.
And it's not - it's a
favor. The very idea that telling someone "You're wrong", is some sort of insult, something that is rude, is what's so... I don't know,
spoiled? Or reminds me of that whole helicopter parenting/participation awards for everyone mentality. Treating everyone's beliefs about anything as if those beliefs are all equally valid, because otherwise they'll be... "
hurt"? I understand her motivation, that she wants to protect people, want them to feel safe, respected etc... but even from that perspective, ask yourself this: "What favor are you
really doing to a woman, who you might even respect alot for how she is as a person
outside her stance on science, by not challenging her on her beliefs in things that you know for a fact are untrue"?
Fame is not flattery. Respect is not agreement.